Showing posts with label Kelsey Serier. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Kelsey Serier. Show all posts

Brinda's Lecture

The other night, we had the opportunity to listen to a lecture given by our professor's sister, Brinda Jayaraman. Brinda is a counselor in the city of Chennai and she often specializes in marriage and couple's therapy. She works with couples who are products of both arranged and love marriages and she has a good understanding of the benefits, the hardships, and the consequences of pursuing these different marriage options.

I think every student on this study abroad experience has been intrigued with the concept of arranged marriages since before our arrival. It is a concept that is so foreign to us in the United States that it is difficult for us to comprehend marrying without love. Furthermore, I think our interest in this subject has increased throughout our time here because most of the students we have talked to have almost all communicated that they will have an arranged marriage. Not one of the students seemed to be upset that they could not pick their future wife or husband. In fact, many of the girls laughed and thought it would be quite silly to spend so much time looking for a husband in love marriages.

The lecture was fantastic and provided helpful insight into the philosophy behind arranged marriages in this largely collectivist community and gave information about the general trends for marriage in India. Some important highlights and points of the lecture are listed below:
  • Love marriages are on the increase in India, whereas the prevalence of arranged marriages is decreasing. The age at which men and women are marrying is also increasing. Most are getting married after college in the age range of 24-28.
  • The place or role of the women in the household is becoming more conspicuous. Men and women have equality and women now have more voice, more respect, and more weight in family decisions, pursuit of career, etc.
  • In India, a marriage doesn't just take place between two people, it takes place between two entire families. In most instances, the in-laws (especially the new husband's in-laws) have strong influence in the lives and decisions of the married couple. There is very little interpersonal space for the new couple. In fact, divorces in India are primarily a result of discrepancies between in-laws.
  • The divorce rate in India is only 1.1% and people in this nation are worried that this percentage is too high. Compare that to the 54% divorce rate in the United States.
  • Dowry still plays a large role in the marriage process and often the price of the dowry is directly proportional to the respect the mother-in-law has for her new daughter.
  • No person can be married before the age of 18. This fact directly contradicts the common stereotype of child brides and child marriages in India.
  • Now before marriage, many men and women are having premarital relationships.
  • Sex education is not readily taught in the course of regular curriculum. Often counselors are sought after for this sort of education.
  • After a large population boom, India has been very proactive in providing information about family planning for the entire population regardless of caste or socioeconomic status.

Thanks again Brinda for a wonderful and informative lecture. I hope that all of you reading this blog learned some insightful information about the marriage process in India.

Visit to the U.S. Consulate in Chennai

Hi everyone,

Today we had the opportunity to visit the U.S. Consulate in Chennai. We were invited to visit after meeting the Consule General Andrew Simkin at a school we were observing at. I was asked to prepare a 5 minute presentation relating some of the main themes and memories from this trip. I am posting the speech that I presented to the public affairs officer at the consulate. I hope you enjoy this synopsis and synthesis of our observations and experiences. More posts to come soon.

Good afternoon. Thank you for inviting us to visit the U.S. Consulate in Chennai. I can speak on behalf of all of my colleagues from Pacific Lutheran University in Tacoma, WA that we are all honored to be here. Thank you.

Our group arrived from the cold and dreary Pacific Northwest a mere two and a half weeks ago. We arrived with unknown expectations and a hesitant uncertainty of what was to come. The only scaffolding we had for building our expectations around were the media portrayals of India: portrayals of poverty, overpopulation, and collapsing infrastructure. Yet despite this insecurity, we had a clear understanding of our mission here: to study the different opportunities for education in India and compare these opportunities to the educational system in the United States. And so we spent time traveling around Chennai, Hosur, and Bangalore visiting with different educational institutions, interacting with teachers and students, and taking in cultural traditions in the realms of religion, dance, and festival. In a matter of these two weeks with our experiences and with the help of our professor Vidya Thirumurthy, that pre-existing scaffolding has been demolished; the expectations have been replaced with realities and the uncertainties with understanding.

Throughout our time here, we have had a chance to experience a variety of educational environments from a school catering to a low economic status to a Montessori school to a number of private schools with different religious affiliations. We have seen the diversity in educational styles and facilities, but the overarching significance from these school visits has been the emphasis of education and the power that education holds. The schools are filled with big dreamers…kids who see that through their education they can change their economic status and can change the realities of their everyday world. The schools are filled with respect, respect for their peers, respect for their teachers, and respect for their education.

India is a land of juxtapositions, a land with contrasting dualities, and opposing polarities present in the Western vs. tradition, religion vs. religion, and wealth vs. poverty. However, versus is not a correct representation because there is no struggle, but an understanding and a peace in these oppositions. There is so much diversity present in India, in the dress, in the sheer number of languages spoken, in the view for the future. As the U.S. consulate mentioned in his speech at the Razeema Matriculation School there is unity present within this diversity. Another key observation has been the hospitality of the communities here. How although we look different from the people present here we are taken into homes and taken into schools like family. This hospitality also involves rampant curiosity about others and their way of life. I think it is fair to assert that India is not a country looking inward, but is looking outward to the world to learn from the world and to affect change upon the rest of the nations. Furthermore, the culture centers around this collectivist virtue. The care of the needs of family and others before one’s self.

While here we have also had the opportunity to participate in a variety of religious traditions stemming from Hinduism, Islam, and Christianity. Although, most of us come from a Christian background it has been a learning experience to participate in rituals and customs so very different from our own. We appreciate the openness that this nation approaches religions. In the States, we are so used to keeping religions privatized. Yet, here it so openly expressed and in this openness comes dialogue and understanding.

All in all, I think we will take back home with us many personal and individual memories that will revolve around five main themes. The first theme is adventure. I don’t think any of us in this room would have believed that at such young ages we would have had the opportunity to travel and experience a culture in such a rich and passionate way. This opportunity has been so phenomenal that it has whetted my appetite for future cultural immersion experiences and a desire to become a global citizen. The second theme is humility. For many of us this is our first direct experience with poverty and the first realization of the immense opportunities that have been afforded to us as American citizens. I know each of us will return to our studies with great fervor because we now realize education is not something to be taken for granted, it is a gift that should be actively pursued. We are also humbled by the fact that our opinion and our viewpoints might not always be right. The dynamics or policies in India might be different than those in the United States, but those differences are not to be wiped away, but to be points of dialogue and learning opportunities. The third theme is tradition. The cultural rituals are so immense in their display, their color, and their significance that the harvest festival of Pongal or the traditional kurta and saree will always hold special places in our heart and serve as direct reflections of the abundance of history and culture within this nation. The fourth theme is hope. Through our interaction with the students, teachers, and others it is evident that India is heading in the right direction to create a better future for tomorrow, to reduce poverty, and to help improve environmental conditions. I think I can speak for everyone in that we are all excited to see what the future holds for India and all the young, bright, and inquisitive minds present in the schools. Change needs to occur, but change needs to occur everywhere, but from what I have witnessed and what I have read the infrastructures and motivations are in place for a promising future. The final theme is unity. Unity in the fact that India is a nation that can exist in the presence of so much diversity and can exist in a state of polarity in peace and reverence. Furthermore, through our interactions and dialogue we have realized that despite our differences and despite being raised on opposite sides of the world, we as humans have so much in common and so much to share. The recognition of these similarities has broken down any barriers and stereotypes and opened the possibility for dialogue, equality, and love.

Thank you again for allowing us to come share our experiences with you at the U.S. consulate and for giving us the opportunity for new discoveries and new perspectives of India that we will carry with us throughout the entirety of your lives. Thank you.

Another view from India

Hi everyone,
I am new to the blog. I know my classmate Tess has been giving you great updates about our adventures in India. The trip has been fantastic so far...in fact words can't even really capture all of the things that I have learned and experienced while I am here. In my next posts, I will go into detail about all of the educational, cultural, and societal observations and experiences we have had...but for now let's do a quick summary of our happenings on the trip by spelling out Happy Pongal! For those of you who don't know Pongal is a the harvest festival celebrated in the state of Tamil Nadu in India. Typically, those of the Hindu religion use the holiday to pay thanks to the gods of cattle and earth. Activities of the festival include: kolam drawings and the making and serving of pongal, a sweet rice. We just celebrated Pongal a few days ago...so I think it is an appropriate phrase for this activity.

H indu temples, Christian churches, mosques, and more. India is a melting pot of religions. People are proud of their religion and openly display their faith. All of the religions coexist here so peacefully.

A sking questions. This trip has been one of inquiry. Questioning students, teachers, and ourselves about the education, culture, society both in India and back home.

P anner, curry, rice, naan, and more. We have been enjoying sampling all of the south Indian cuisine. In fact, our mouths may still be tingling with all of the intense spices when we return.

P eople. The sheer number of people in the city of Chennai is immense. There are always crowds of people at every location and at every hour of everyday. People exert their democratic freedom with fervor and most are looking to make life in India better for future generations.

Y ield...no way...the traffic in Chennai and the rest of India is unbelievable. Lanes are optional, the horn is a tool of necessity, and pedestrians beware. Chennai traffic makes an I-5 traffic jam look like a dream come true.

P overty. There is no side-stepping this realization that India is a developing nation. The poverty is evident. It is humbling and difficult to come to terms with.

O n broadway...well not exactly...but the Bollywood movie that we saw was toe-tapping fantastic. We all came out of the theater with smiles on our faces, even though we didn't understand one word. Other cultural events we have experienced include dance, kolam drawing, pongal celebrations and more.

N ew clothes. While in India, we have been wearing the traditional kurtas, scarves, and pants. We also just bought sarees the other day. The clothing here is so bright, colorful, and comfortable.

G etting to know the children at the schools has been a wonderful experience. They are so bright and so inquisitive. Among the differences, there are so many similarities. I will remember these interactions for many years to come.

A choo....unfortunately almost everyone of us on the trip have had a bout with a cold :( (we are all almost well)

L ove. India is about love of family and love of each other. We have been welcomed here with open arms and open hearts even though we look strange and can only speak one language.
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