Goodbye, India

We all made it home safely after 20 more hours of flying and 5 hours of airports, immigration, security, and customs!
Will I ever go back to India? I don't know. Even if I do make it back, it will not be visiting schools, or with the wonderful Vidya. This adventure has been so rewarding and so invigorating that I can't truly believe that it's over. I guess that's just how life works, right? You eventually have to start putting your knowledge and experience to use. And I am ready to see how this journey has and will change my (former) everyday life.

I expected to feel different being in India. Not just in a sensory way, but being in a country so different from my own that is perceived and interpreted as another world I expected some feeling of different-ness. Yet, everywhere you go there is hope. There is love. There is determination and amazing aspirations. India and the United States may differ in economic standing, yet the stand is the same on humans and their primal right to, and need for happiness.

Flying over the mountains on our descent into Seattle, reminded me of a lesson I learned the first time I traveled abroad (that I will probably have to re-learn for the rest of my life). The beauty of these far-away lands often makes us forget the beauty that has always surrounded us in our home. We get to drive by magnificent snow-covered mountains everyday of our lives! And we can immerse ourselves in the beauty of Puget Sound whenever we please! We spend so much time in this atmosphere that we (or at least I admittedly) forget just how blessed I am to live in such a visually-amazing part of the world.

The culture of the U.S. and the Pacific Northwest is so varied in rituals, religions, and practices, but we can all be connected by the stunning landscape that we often forget that we share (and also our addiction to coffee).
Namaste, India.
I will miss your messages of peace, your immense diversity in language and religion, your hospitable climate, the dedication of your children, the closeness of your community and your beautiful inhabitants. I will forever cherish the enlightenment you have brought me.

Day 18: How to Spend Your Last Day in India

Step 1: Observe a great school!
The low-income institution we visited today was amazing in the ways that we were able to communicate with the students (most of whom did not speak English). One little boy and I just made funny faces at each other, there was definitely some of the most entertaining children we had come into contact with! Further, even though the classes were in Tamil, it was relatively easy to understand what was going on in the classrooms, due to the teachers' utilization of visual aids! I understood and followed the Physics class because the instructor constantly referred to his written formula's and the Earth Sciences teacher used so many maps and charts to explain animals of the rain forest and charts of the food chain, etc. that we could still observe the classes successfully without translations! It is really hard to accept that this is the last school we will visit because each institution has provided such a variety of insights into life in this amazingly diverse country!

Step 2: Get More Henna (Mehendi) Done!
We went to Brinda's house after leaving the school and watched as the Henna artists made the clay-like material before they individually painted each of us! It is seriously amazing how these guys can freehand these designs (which have similar patterns and shapes) yet all of our designs are so different!

Step 3: Wear Beautiful Saree's!
We got our blouse pieces and (with Vidya's help) were able to put on our Saree's! This is a very traditional dress for women that is in three pieces. The blouse, the petticoat, and the 6 yards of fabric that wraps around your body (originally it was 9 yards of fabric, 'the whole 9 yards' was a saree reference!).

Step 4: Crash an Indian Wedding!
When we saw the bright lights and announcement that a wedding was taking place, we jokingly asked Vidya if we could crash it. Her response, 'ok, but we're only staying for ten minutes!' So we walked into the beautifully decorated hall and started dancing with all the guests! People kept asking to dance with us! Then they asked if we would eat with them! and THEN one of the girls of wedding party asked Vidya why were there and she told her how we were students and just wanted to see an Indian wedding. The girl's response? 'We are so honored to be in your presence." Then the father of the Bride told us how much God had blessed him because of our presence there and would not let us leave until we had met every member of his family! This was a very uncomfortable (albeit amazing) experience for all of us. Although who knows how happy the bride will be when she watches her wedding video and constantly sees 8 white girls instead of her friends and family...

I don't think 3 weeks was enough time to truly understand India or the people here, but this night is one I will never forget!

Brinda's Lecture

The other night, we had the opportunity to listen to a lecture given by our professor's sister, Brinda Jayaraman. Brinda is a counselor in the city of Chennai and she often specializes in marriage and couple's therapy. She works with couples who are products of both arranged and love marriages and she has a good understanding of the benefits, the hardships, and the consequences of pursuing these different marriage options.

I think every student on this study abroad experience has been intrigued with the concept of arranged marriages since before our arrival. It is a concept that is so foreign to us in the United States that it is difficult for us to comprehend marrying without love. Furthermore, I think our interest in this subject has increased throughout our time here because most of the students we have talked to have almost all communicated that they will have an arranged marriage. Not one of the students seemed to be upset that they could not pick their future wife or husband. In fact, many of the girls laughed and thought it would be quite silly to spend so much time looking for a husband in love marriages.

The lecture was fantastic and provided helpful insight into the philosophy behind arranged marriages in this largely collectivist community and gave information about the general trends for marriage in India. Some important highlights and points of the lecture are listed below:
  • Love marriages are on the increase in India, whereas the prevalence of arranged marriages is decreasing. The age at which men and women are marrying is also increasing. Most are getting married after college in the age range of 24-28.
  • The place or role of the women in the household is becoming more conspicuous. Men and women have equality and women now have more voice, more respect, and more weight in family decisions, pursuit of career, etc.
  • In India, a marriage doesn't just take place between two people, it takes place between two entire families. In most instances, the in-laws (especially the new husband's in-laws) have strong influence in the lives and decisions of the married couple. There is very little interpersonal space for the new couple. In fact, divorces in India are primarily a result of discrepancies between in-laws.
  • The divorce rate in India is only 1.1% and people in this nation are worried that this percentage is too high. Compare that to the 54% divorce rate in the United States.
  • Dowry still plays a large role in the marriage process and often the price of the dowry is directly proportional to the respect the mother-in-law has for her new daughter.
  • No person can be married before the age of 18. This fact directly contradicts the common stereotype of child brides and child marriages in India.
  • Now before marriage, many men and women are having premarital relationships.
  • Sex education is not readily taught in the course of regular curriculum. Often counselors are sought after for this sort of education.
  • After a large population boom, India has been very proactive in providing information about family planning for the entire population regardless of caste or socioeconomic status.

Thanks again Brinda for a wonderful and informative lecture. I hope that all of you reading this blog learned some insightful information about the marriage process in India.

Day 17: Educational Juxtaposition

(Illustrated by the beautiful beachfront sunrise we witnessed at 6:36 am on January 20)

The first school we went to today was a special education school. And seeing this institution has definitely been the hardest experience to handle during my time here. Even though the teachers were dedicated and the philosophies were sound, it physically hurt to think about how difficult these innocent lives will be. And there is very little these hard-working students can do about it.

I had to excuse myself from the classrooms multiple time to release the build-up of emotion that I've held in for the past 18 days and wipe my eyes.

These kids however, warm your heart in every way. They are so friendly, warm, and all-around wonderful! They were so proud to show us their notebooks and what they had learned and what they were capable of.

We got to see a section for mentally-handicapped adults as well. Grown men and women who lived at the school and had learned different trades took such joy in showing us what they could do and what they could make. The look of excitement and pride on one man's face as he showed us how he manufactures paper cups (similar to dixie cups) will never leave my memory.

This school does not charge tuition, yet the government only pays for the teachers salaries. The buildings have cracks, holes, mold, and are clearly falling apart, the smell is unbelievable, and one girl was crawling on the ground due to lack of a wheelchair. The rest of the budget comes from donations alone, which the school receives very few of. Vidya gave a large donation, and then the 8 of us pitched in to give around 5,000 rupees in total. It's not much compared to what they need, but it's something. And we had to do something.

Immediately after leaving the school, we arrived at Stella Maris University. This college is Vidya's alma mater, and similar to PLU in both population and area, and (like most of India and PLU) was very aware about going Green!

It was great to see aspirations similar to those we witnessed in some of the schools come to fruition for these students. Like a reminder that even though there is hardship and despair, there is also success.

Being there was also a good reminder that two weeks from now we will be ready to begin Spring semester at PLU. I still have no idea how much this trip will affect my future and my life...

Day 16: Vidyodaya Girl's School

These 1st Standard students had all submitted these pieces to the school art show, and could not wait to show us their creations!









Visit to the U.S. Consulate in Chennai

Hi everyone,

Today we had the opportunity to visit the U.S. Consulate in Chennai. We were invited to visit after meeting the Consule General Andrew Simkin at a school we were observing at. I was asked to prepare a 5 minute presentation relating some of the main themes and memories from this trip. I am posting the speech that I presented to the public affairs officer at the consulate. I hope you enjoy this synopsis and synthesis of our observations and experiences. More posts to come soon.

Good afternoon. Thank you for inviting us to visit the U.S. Consulate in Chennai. I can speak on behalf of all of my colleagues from Pacific Lutheran University in Tacoma, WA that we are all honored to be here. Thank you.

Our group arrived from the cold and dreary Pacific Northwest a mere two and a half weeks ago. We arrived with unknown expectations and a hesitant uncertainty of what was to come. The only scaffolding we had for building our expectations around were the media portrayals of India: portrayals of poverty, overpopulation, and collapsing infrastructure. Yet despite this insecurity, we had a clear understanding of our mission here: to study the different opportunities for education in India and compare these opportunities to the educational system in the United States. And so we spent time traveling around Chennai, Hosur, and Bangalore visiting with different educational institutions, interacting with teachers and students, and taking in cultural traditions in the realms of religion, dance, and festival. In a matter of these two weeks with our experiences and with the help of our professor Vidya Thirumurthy, that pre-existing scaffolding has been demolished; the expectations have been replaced with realities and the uncertainties with understanding.

Throughout our time here, we have had a chance to experience a variety of educational environments from a school catering to a low economic status to a Montessori school to a number of private schools with different religious affiliations. We have seen the diversity in educational styles and facilities, but the overarching significance from these school visits has been the emphasis of education and the power that education holds. The schools are filled with big dreamers…kids who see that through their education they can change their economic status and can change the realities of their everyday world. The schools are filled with respect, respect for their peers, respect for their teachers, and respect for their education.

India is a land of juxtapositions, a land with contrasting dualities, and opposing polarities present in the Western vs. tradition, religion vs. religion, and wealth vs. poverty. However, versus is not a correct representation because there is no struggle, but an understanding and a peace in these oppositions. There is so much diversity present in India, in the dress, in the sheer number of languages spoken, in the view for the future. As the U.S. consulate mentioned in his speech at the Razeema Matriculation School there is unity present within this diversity. Another key observation has been the hospitality of the communities here. How although we look different from the people present here we are taken into homes and taken into schools like family. This hospitality also involves rampant curiosity about others and their way of life. I think it is fair to assert that India is not a country looking inward, but is looking outward to the world to learn from the world and to affect change upon the rest of the nations. Furthermore, the culture centers around this collectivist virtue. The care of the needs of family and others before one’s self.

While here we have also had the opportunity to participate in a variety of religious traditions stemming from Hinduism, Islam, and Christianity. Although, most of us come from a Christian background it has been a learning experience to participate in rituals and customs so very different from our own. We appreciate the openness that this nation approaches religions. In the States, we are so used to keeping religions privatized. Yet, here it so openly expressed and in this openness comes dialogue and understanding.

All in all, I think we will take back home with us many personal and individual memories that will revolve around five main themes. The first theme is adventure. I don’t think any of us in this room would have believed that at such young ages we would have had the opportunity to travel and experience a culture in such a rich and passionate way. This opportunity has been so phenomenal that it has whetted my appetite for future cultural immersion experiences and a desire to become a global citizen. The second theme is humility. For many of us this is our first direct experience with poverty and the first realization of the immense opportunities that have been afforded to us as American citizens. I know each of us will return to our studies with great fervor because we now realize education is not something to be taken for granted, it is a gift that should be actively pursued. We are also humbled by the fact that our opinion and our viewpoints might not always be right. The dynamics or policies in India might be different than those in the United States, but those differences are not to be wiped away, but to be points of dialogue and learning opportunities. The third theme is tradition. The cultural rituals are so immense in their display, their color, and their significance that the harvest festival of Pongal or the traditional kurta and saree will always hold special places in our heart and serve as direct reflections of the abundance of history and culture within this nation. The fourth theme is hope. Through our interaction with the students, teachers, and others it is evident that India is heading in the right direction to create a better future for tomorrow, to reduce poverty, and to help improve environmental conditions. I think I can speak for everyone in that we are all excited to see what the future holds for India and all the young, bright, and inquisitive minds present in the schools. Change needs to occur, but change needs to occur everywhere, but from what I have witnessed and what I have read the infrastructures and motivations are in place for a promising future. The final theme is unity. Unity in the fact that India is a nation that can exist in the presence of so much diversity and can exist in a state of polarity in peace and reverence. Furthermore, through our interactions and dialogue we have realized that despite our differences and despite being raised on opposite sides of the world, we as humans have so much in common and so much to share. The recognition of these similarities has broken down any barriers and stereotypes and opened the possibility for dialogue, equality, and love.

Thank you again for allowing us to come share our experiences with you at the U.S. consulate and for giving us the opportunity for new discoveries and new perspectives of India that we will carry with us throughout the entirety of your lives. Thank you.

Week Two Reflection

On our 14th day here I realized that my perspectives are not changing instantaneously. It takes a lot of reflection to truly realize how my views have altered, and this week I think I realized that my views on "third-world countries"/"developing nations" will be forever affected because of this experience. There is a big difference between these two terms. And even though the latter is a more accepted phrase (for obvious reasons) I do not think it is appropriate of me to call India either of the two.

The label of "Third-world country" de-humanizes the people who live in that nation. Yet the children we have come across have a better approach to education and their futures than most American children! And even the beggar woman I saw on the street two days ago was simply trying to provide for her child-which is one of the most primal human instincts!

It is hard for me to claim that my country America, although I love it's freedoms and landscapes, is more "developed" than India. Here there is a female president. Here religions and religious tolerance are not only taught, but Muslims, Christians, and Hindu's go to school and pray together!

One of my group mates pointed out that if this understanding and acceptance had been taught in American schools other than what is "politically correct," maybe there would not be a social stigma against those of the Islamic faith after the actions on 9/11. Maybe we would have understood the origins and philosophies of this culture and "Islamophobia" would not exist, we could all understand that extreme terrorists represent less than .5% of the Islamic world population.

It's these misinformed and misinterpreted stigma's that work against uniting the states of America and cause Western society (with all its imperfections and developing qualities) to call itself the "first world" and countries like India the "third world."
America is so unique in the ethnicities and origins of all of her citizens. Yet, it seems like this fear of the "other" comes out of a longing for the community and connectedness that is present in these poverty-stricken, beautiful countries like India. Who are we to call ourselves that much better? Or truly better at all?
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